How To Prevent Erection Failures

If you observe that erection failures occur more frequently, probably, you are waiting too much from yourself or you are trying to make sex in an inappropriate place. Check below ways to reduce to minimum these failures. Most important thing is that these tips would help to avoid anxiety which leads to a serious long-term problems.

 - Make sex only when you are disposed to it.

 - Admit that you are a human and not a machine. Your feelings and sexual performance not necessarily should be equal. Sometimes you are in condition of greater readiness and sometimes you need an additional stimulation. You should say this to your partner.

 - Avoid accidental partners, at least until you acquire self-confidence. You will trouble less and work better if you would create steady relationships with a partner whose reactions you know and whom you may trust.

 - Do not judge your quality observing condition of your penis. Mutual satisfaction may be achieved without sexual intercourse, though during physical contact erection may occur without your conscious participation.

- If you cannot achieve erection or it disappeared before sexual intercourse or during it, you should not get upset. Explain to your partner what has happened. “Probably, I am very tired today. Let us try tomorrow in the morning.” Do not feel yourself guilty and assure your partner that there is no his guilt in that. Most important is not to withdraw physically and mentally from each other only because this time you cannot achieve erection for performing sexual intercourse. Stay close with your partner by any means except sex. If you like to be together, no matter if you have erection or not, you will be less anxious the next time when experiencing erection failure.

Male Orgasm Difficulties

Inability to achieve erection or maintain it is most important problem that may disturb a man. Obsolete term "impotence” reflects feelings caused by this failure. When considering sexual functioning, this term is almost useless because it means any erection failure – from an accidental case having a simple cause to total inability to achieve erection under any circumstances.

Sometimes it is difficult to achieve erection and maintain it, especially after hard drinking or as a result of great fatigue. Such moments occur in most males. However, if those episodes became rather a rule than an exception, you should address to the doctor because this may have a medical explanation.

You should go to a doctor if you never achieved erection. The problem may have a physical cause. However, physical and hormonal causes of erection difficulties meet rarely. In most cases permanent fiasco has psychological cause. The problem may appear as a result of feeling guilt suggested in childhood or teenage, or may be developed as a result of monotony in long-term relationship.

Probably, most often this problem may occur if one or two non-significant episodes suddenly become a trouble about male sexual abilities. Male condition which usually is called “troubling about the result”constricts the ability to achieve or maintain erection.

Sometimes you could not achieve erection when you wanted it or you achieved partial erection, or you lost it in critical moment. This occurs when you are not disposed to sexual intercourse or your partner not attracts you very much.
Sometimes natural anxiety prevents from achieving erection. This anxiety may be caused by nervousness because of new relationship or feeling of guilt because of illegality of relationship.

Temporal failures have sense only when you have sticked to yourself the label of “impotent” or when you let compulsive thoughts about possible fiasco in future take roots.

Why It Is Difficult To Diagnose Sexual Disorders?

There is no exact definition for normal sexual life. Everybody has its own sexual life that is determined by personal preferences. Frequency varies from several times a week to several times a year.

Sex not necessarily means sexual intercourse. It is not necessarily felling the onset of orgasm in each partner. In fact, any person can have periods of sex cool down.There is no common sex standard, so sometimes it is difficult to say if the couple has sexual problems or not.

There are particular signs which help you to find out if you have sexual problems:

• the problem occurs permanently or it repeats quite often at length
• the problems causes stress – it makes man feel upset and greatly worries him
• the problem results in difficulties in the relationship and breaks down chemistry with sexual partner

Two last signs are most important. In many people  libido change and lowering of sexual function do not cause stress and do not influence on relationship with the partner. In this case there is no sexual problem. However, when a man suffers greatly from these changes, then we can say that the sexual problem exists.

Another difficulty is that sexual disorder is caused not just by one factor, it may be caused by the complex of physiological and psychological factors. Normal sexual function means passing through all sex stages:
1. Excitement
2. Blood flush into genitalia (erection in men, lubricant exudation and genitalia increase in women)
3. Orgasm
4. Feeling of satisfaction and satiation

Breakdown can occur on any stage of this cycle and it can be caused by a number of factors. Finally it results in sexual disorders.

The role of bad habits and diseases
Sexual disorders can be caused by the next factors:

• diabetes
• cardiovascular diseases
• neurological diseases (insult, brain injury and spinal cord trauma, multiple sclerosis)
• trauma or operation on pelvic organs
• side effects of drugs
• chronic diseases (kidney failure, hepatic failure)
• endocrine profile disorders
• drinking and taking drugs
• smoking
• aging changes

Psychological factors:

• stress on the work
• anxiety about problems in the family or with friends
• mental disorders (depression, anxiety)
• past unsuccessful sex

Associated diseases and disorders make people worry about their sexual function and namely this problem is added to the existing problem. In case of appearing of serious sexual problems first you should find out if they are connected with taking of some medicines, hormonal disorders, mental diseases (depression, anxiety) or mental trauma.

If it was detected one of these problems then it may be removed by the doctor. Otherwise the relationship in the couple must be analyzed. Sexual disorder may appear just in a certain situation. It means that problem exists just in one partner in a certain situation. In this case both partners should consult psychologist.