How To Deal With Erection Failure. Part Two.

 Let us move to second stage of exercises. As we told in previous post, for that exercise you need your favorable disposed partner who will help you to deal with erectile failure. Both of you should understand that you need to be selfish and think first of all about personal needs if you want treatment to be effective. Partner should be ready for a certain disappointment because on this stage you cannot have sexual intercourse regardless of possible strong arousal. Certainly, you may bring him to an orgasm with your hand or oral sex at the end of each séance.

1. Make together exercise on concentration of sensations. Relax and get pleasure of the way your partner caresses your body. Do not think about erection at all. Do not think if it occurred or not.

2. Then your partner begins to stimulate your penis with hands till erection appears but not brings you to the orgasm. Lubricant increases sensations and helps to erection achievement. It would be better to make this in daytime when you usually feel yourself more tenderly responsive.

3. When you achieved erection, your partner stops stimulation and lets erection fully go away, and then starts stimulation again. You will discover that oral stimulation is a perfect way to achieve erection again (or to achieve erection at the beginning of exercise if it was difficult). This step would show you that lost erection may be restored at your wish. When you will understand that you may achieve erection, then weaken it and then again achieve it in partner's presence, let him bring you to an orgasm.

How To Deal With Erection Failure. Part One

If problems with erection do occur so frequently that they affect your sexual life, and tips we recommend in our blog do not work, try to make some exercises. Their aim is to remove your anxiety and help you to understand that even gentle stimulation may get it  back. In this we talk about first exercise. Second exercise you will find in next post.

Those exercises would help you to relieve from anxiety about your sexual results because you are not required to have sexual intercourse until you feel yourself more confident. First stage of exercises may be performed without partner. On next stages you will need partner, the one who really likes you, who patiently will help you to perform all treatment steps and get pleasure.

Try to make these exercises when you are disposed to sex.
1) Start stimulating penis with your hand using any fantasy which excites you. Do it while you achieve full penis erection. Stop stimulation and let erection totally go away. Turn your attention on something abstract and erection would go away more quickly.

2) When penis will become soft, start again to masturbate till full erection and then again intentionally weaken it. Then stimulate penis third time and, if you want, do it until ejaculation occurs. If you have difficulties in achieving erection after its intentional  weakening (or at the beginning of exercise), use lubricant.

Repeat this exercise until you get confident that alone you may achieve erection, intentionally weaken it and then again achieve it. Self-confidence will appear after 3 – 4 times of successful exercise performance.

How To Prevent Erection Failures

If you observe that erection failures occur more frequently, probably, you are waiting too much from yourself or you are trying to make sex in an inappropriate place. Check below ways to reduce to minimum these failures. Most important thing is that these tips would help to avoid anxiety which leads to a serious long-term problems.

 - Make sex only when you are disposed to it.

 - Admit that you are a human and not a machine. Your feelings and sexual performance not necessarily should be equal. Sometimes you are in condition of greater readiness and sometimes you need an additional stimulation. You should say this to your partner.

 - Avoid accidental partners, at least until you acquire self-confidence. You will trouble less and work better if you would create steady relationships with a partner whose reactions you know and whom you may trust.

 - Do not judge your quality observing condition of your penis. Mutual satisfaction may be achieved without sexual intercourse, though during physical contact erection may occur without your conscious participation.

- If you cannot achieve erection or it disappeared before sexual intercourse or during it, you should not get upset. Explain to your partner what has happened. “Probably, I am very tired today. Let us try tomorrow in the morning.” Do not feel yourself guilty and assure your partner that there is no his guilt in that. Most important is not to withdraw physically and mentally from each other only because this time you cannot achieve erection for performing sexual intercourse. Stay close with your partner by any means except sex. If you like to be together, no matter if you have erection or not, you will be less anxious the next time when experiencing erection failure.

Male Orgasm Difficulties

Inability to achieve erection or maintain it is most important problem that may disturb a man. Obsolete term "impotence” reflects feelings caused by this failure. When considering sexual functioning, this term is almost useless because it means any erection failure – from an accidental case having a simple cause to total inability to achieve erection under any circumstances.

Sometimes it is difficult to achieve erection and maintain it, especially after hard drinking or as a result of great fatigue. Such moments occur in most males. However, if those episodes became rather a rule than an exception, you should address to the doctor because this may have a medical explanation.

You should go to a doctor if you never achieved erection. The problem may have a physical cause. However, physical and hormonal causes of erection difficulties meet rarely. In most cases permanent fiasco has psychological cause. The problem may appear as a result of feeling guilt suggested in childhood or teenage, or may be developed as a result of monotony in long-term relationship.

Probably, most often this problem may occur if one or two non-significant episodes suddenly become a trouble about male sexual abilities. Male condition which usually is called “troubling about the result”constricts the ability to achieve or maintain erection.

Sometimes you could not achieve erection when you wanted it or you achieved partial erection, or you lost it in critical moment. This occurs when you are not disposed to sexual intercourse or your partner not attracts you very much.
Sometimes natural anxiety prevents from achieving erection. This anxiety may be caused by nervousness because of new relationship or feeling of guilt because of illegality of relationship.

Temporal failures have sense only when you have sticked to yourself the label of “impotent” or when you let compulsive thoughts about possible fiasco in future take roots.